I’ve worked with people my whole career and over the years in my professional life I’ve witnessed a lot. Acts of love, kindness and care, as well as the damage inflicted by others that can only be described as abhorrent.
There is a common thread which truly defines the human experience for me. It’s our determination and resilience to seek out connection and belonging.
Connection happens when we are seen, heard, and understood for exactly who we are (and for who we’re not). Belonging is when we are accepted for who we are (and for who we’re not). Belonging and connection help us manage stress and help us cope more effectively with difficult times in our lives. When we feel we have support and are not alone, we are more resilient.
Whilst connection and belonging sound like simple concepts, when we feel disconnected or that we don’t belong, life can feel a lot more difficult, we can lack energy and slip into survival mode. An auto-pilot of sorts – where we take our hands off the wheel and allow the external circumstances to take over our controls.
I’ve noticed there are 3 concepts that every client I have ever worked with needed to know; they are:
It’s interesting that these concepts can create magnificent A-HA moments with clients because they really come to understand what belonging and connection means to them and how it influences their thinking, feelings and actions or inaction.
When we take the time to step back and really think about these concepts, we begin to develop a more compassionate and caring relationship with ourselves. We come to understand that our individual experiences are also part of the collective human experience.
Well, that’s a little serious and deep!
But what does it all really mean?
It means you get to choose what happens next.
You can move towards creating your own sense of connection, belonging and fulfillment.
You can take back the wheel and create energy, excitement and new challenges that stretch you in positive ways.
You can develop a new relationship with yourself in a more compassionate and caring way.
You can make your way towards achieving your goals.
You can choose to be your authentic self all day, every day.
If you’re struggling to believe in your ability to understand what you truly want or making the shift to implement some changes – remember you’re not alone. If you need to – just borrow my belief in you, until you’re ready to pick it back up for yourself.
I got you – because you’ve got this!
Go gently,
Mel xoxox
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